Is My Partner An Alcoholic?

Alcohol addiction can destroy more than just the life of the individual suffering.  Alcoholism has a direct link with higher rates of divorce and relationship dissolution. While bringing up the topic can feel uncomfortable, the benefits of a stronger, healthier relationship should outweigh the desire to avoid discomfort.

This article looks at the signs and symptoms of alcoholism in a partner, as well as techniques to approach the topic with them.

Signs and symptoms of alcoholism in your partner

In the early stages of a relationship, it can be harder to recognise problematic drinking habits that harm both your partner and your relationship. Identifying a drink addiction often requires an observation of changes over time. After the early relationship stage, or when living together, the picture of problematic drinking becomes easier to discern.

If you think your spouse or significant other is suffering, some of the signs and symptoms of alcohol abuse to watch for include:

How can I broach the topic empathetically?

Starting a conversation with someone you care about on alcohol addiction is difficult enough as it is, but if you share a home and a life with them, it can feel especially precarious. It’s likely that your partner is already aware that their drinking is hurting them, but is too afraid to admit it. At times like this, a carefully guided and considerate approach is needed.

Start off by expressing that you’re coming from a place of deep love and care. Talking about their addiction may become emotional for both parties, so try to minimise expressions barbed with tones of blame, accusation and judgement.

Remain as calm as you can to make sure your feelings ring true as you explain them. Use “I” statements like “I feel,” “I notice,” and “I know” instead of “You.” Drawing up a list of instances you were hurt and practicing what you’ll say beforehand may help, but try not to talk as though you’re delivering a public speech. Make room in the conversation for their replies, but make sure you’ve expressed everything on your list.

Do I need to plan an intervention?

If you’ve recognised alcoholic symptoms and your previous attempts to bring up your partner’s addiction were fruitless, it may become imperative to plan a formal alcohol intervention. Interventions can be arranged with a small group of people who have your partner’s best interests at heart.

Our guidance for speaking empathetically should be followed, yet each person should be given time and room to express themselves freely. The conversations may become too emotional during the intervention, so preparing letters beforehand can be beneficial.

The intervention’s location and time should be given careful consideration. Do it at a time when you know your partner (and every other person attending) will be sober. Choose a place quiet enough for everyone to be heard and where the alcohol intervention remains private.

Finally, research local addiction treatment providers near you. The end of an intervention needs to give actions and options your partner can take to get help.

My partner needs help with an alcohol addiction

If you suspect that your partner is struggling with alcohol addiction, you should know that you don’t have to face this alone. Addressing the issue might feel uncomfortable, but it may be the step your relationship needs if alcoholism is causing issues. Professional support can make all the difference, both for their recovery and your own well-being.

At UKAT, we specialise in drug and alcohol detox treatment that helps people withdraw safely and sustain their sobriety. Our expert staff give round-the-clock care to manage alcohol symptoms and ensure a smoother, stronger recovery.

Don’t wait to seek help. Contact UKAT today to take the first step toward a healthier life, free from the confines of alcohol addiction.